Baby gays

Catherine Henderson. There are lots of shared experiences of coming out that might fall under this category. Feeling butterflies in a gay way for the first time, sobbing at pride parades, and purchasing rainbow accessories — these are all experiences that I would associate with that time in my life. Stop being weird about learning!

As soon as you say something like this — trust — the universe will bring you the most empathetic, beautiful, newly-out gay person to prove you wrong. Be kind to each other. I was extraordinarily lucky to grow up with queer parents — to be a literal baby of gays.

DEAR BABY GAYS: INVESTIGATING THE SOCIOTECHNICAL PRACTICES OF OLDER LGBTQ+ TIKTOK USERS

They are always the voice in the back of my head, reminding me that I deserve queer love and joy. It is our birthright. For gays who have recently come out and are ready to venture into the world of queer dating, these are some tips to build your confidence. What does it look like to flirt with a woman or nonbinary person?

But looking back on times when I was flirting with someone, it was…not subtle. In the moment, my mind was racing, trying to decide if we were baby friends or something more. But we were comparing the size of our fingers. We were talking about Patricia Highsmith and June Jordan.

She asked to see the tattoo on my ribs. Like, come on. This is my advice for anyone, regardless of sexuality, regardless of age. Be bold. Make the first move. We can all agree the foundation of any relationship is communication. So start there and be clear about how you feel and what you want from the baby.

In queer dating, you are released from the gendered norms of who asks who out. I almost always make the first move. In my first relationship, I sent a gay confessing my crush on my best friend via email. I thought I had lost my friend and also all of my pride. Just thinking about it makes me lightheaded, even 8 years later.

But the next day, they said they had thought about it a lot — and they wanted to be together.